I've noticed recently that every single time someone asks me how I am, I give the answer (very quickly) of "I'm good! How are you??".. now.. I know about myself, that I'm recovering from the "I'm Fine" Syndrome. In the meantime, my habit exists.
And really.. this habit is exactly what the problem is.
The quick (not always honest) answer about me, and then the more genuine concern about them.
The "I don't have any problems, but I'd love to hear yours."
Therefore, I am going to challenge myself.
In the next.. well.. couple of days? Week? Something do-able. I'm going to give a different answer.
1. Be honest
2. No asking about them
Now at first thought, this feels really awful to me. I want to know how someone else is doing. But it's as if I need to cut myself off, cold turkey, to learn this lesson.
That it's okay for someone else to care about you, and to bask in that. Let that be. Live in it. Enjoy it. Savor it. Don't just give a 1 cent answer and then shift concern back to them. Appreciate the fact that they care enough to ask how you are.
It's harder than it sounds.
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